reactive young people :)
Sometimes, REAL LIVING hurts.
Sometimes, being your true self hurts.
Sometimes, letting your guards down hurts.
Sometimes, opening up to people hurts.
How would you feel, if a friend keeps teasing you with the same thing again and again and again?
How would you feel if you keep getting this question:-
"Angie, you don't know this right?"
"Angie, you don't know this word right?"
"Angie, you don't know this phrase right?"
"Angie, you're banana, you don't know this right?"
Not once, but many times. Once, twice it's okay. Normal what, teasing is part of relating to each other. But over and over and over again? How would you feel?
It's as if this person needed to prove that she is so Chinese, since she is Chinese-educated, and that I am such a banana that I'm not fit to be called Chinese. Or, maybe all these are merely my assumptions.
After a while, it just gets to you. You feel like shouting to her, "Hello, leave me alone would you? I'm proud to be banana, and I'm proudly CHINESE. I don't care if you know more than I do, because I DON'T HAVE TO F****** PROVE HOW CINA I AM TO YOU!!!!!"
Well, perhaps, subconsciously, deep down she needed to prove that she is more superior. Or, maybe not.
But at the same time, this episode also made me realise the truth of the statement that younger people tend to be more reactive. The older you grow, the more mellow you become. You no longer have the need to prove who you are to people. There is no need to react to everything.
I guess I'm still in the reactive stage.
This time, I reacted. Sent a very polite and straightforward (but long) message asking her to stop it.
The next time stuff like this happens, I'm gonna learn to be less reactive. And just let the person be.
Coz if some people need to prove how good they are, just leave them be.
I don't have to prove how Cina I am to this person.
And I certainly have no need to prove who I am to anyone for any matter, in the future.
BECAUSE I AM WHO I AM.
Sometimes, being your true self hurts.
Sometimes, letting your guards down hurts.
Sometimes, opening up to people hurts.
How would you feel, if a friend keeps teasing you with the same thing again and again and again?
How would you feel if you keep getting this question:-
"Angie, you don't know this right?"
"Angie, you don't know this word right?"
"Angie, you don't know this phrase right?"
"Angie, you're banana, you don't know this right?"
Not once, but many times. Once, twice it's okay. Normal what, teasing is part of relating to each other. But over and over and over again? How would you feel?
It's as if this person needed to prove that she is so Chinese, since she is Chinese-educated, and that I am such a banana that I'm not fit to be called Chinese. Or, maybe all these are merely my assumptions.
After a while, it just gets to you. You feel like shouting to her, "Hello, leave me alone would you? I'm proud to be banana, and I'm proudly CHINESE. I don't care if you know more than I do, because I DON'T HAVE TO F****** PROVE HOW CINA I AM TO YOU!!!!!"
Well, perhaps, subconsciously, deep down she needed to prove that she is more superior. Or, maybe not.
But at the same time, this episode also made me realise the truth of the statement that younger people tend to be more reactive. The older you grow, the more mellow you become. You no longer have the need to prove who you are to people. There is no need to react to everything.
I guess I'm still in the reactive stage.
This time, I reacted. Sent a very polite and straightforward (but long) message asking her to stop it.
The next time stuff like this happens, I'm gonna learn to be less reactive. And just let the person be.
Coz if some people need to prove how good they are, just leave them be.
I don't have to prove how Cina I am to this person.
And I certainly have no need to prove who I am to anyone for any matter, in the future.
BECAUSE I AM WHO I AM.
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